Being the primary caregiver is an experience most fathers don't get to experience.
I decided to go all-in on my business, while going all-in as a parent.
My company was at an inflection point. We were a small company who's singular goal was to revolutionize how broadcasters get things on TV. We had modest growth through our first year, but we were small. Both my cofounder and I were working day jobs, with our night job going well, but not "quit your day job" well.
My wife, who at this point had chosen to work once-a-week as a nurse, was given a really great opportunity in Portland for us to make more money, if we temporarily moved there. Yes, it'd mean quitting my job, but it'd also mean while she was working three days a week, I'd have two days a week to work on my company, and three to be a full-time parent.
While the decision was not immediate, it seemed like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to try two things I hadn't yet tried: Devoting more time to my business, while devoting more time to my son.
It's been the most difficult time of our lives. Being the primary caregiver is an experience most fathers don't get to experience. And, having the extra time to build my business with no outside distractions, has been extremely useful for our business.
We've been able to save money, grow the business modestly, and we're on-track to make it so my income can solely provide for our family.
While I might resume my five-days-a-week career aspirations soon, one thing I'll never resume is feeling like I didn't know how to be close to my son. I feel like I'm such a better parent, and making time for him won't seem like such a tradeoff, as it might have if I were exclusively career focused.
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