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Venus Williams

‘Venus VS’: Filmmaker Ava DuVernay on Venus Williams and the Fight for Equal Pay

By Nicole Ng • July 2, 2013

It started with a lobby to the British government. Then to UNESCO. There was a scathing op-ed in the Times of London. And ultimately, in 2007, success: Almost four decades after Billie Jean King demanded prize equity in women’s tennis at the U.S. open, Wimbledon did the same. Venus Williams became the first female champion to earn as much prize money as a man.

At the time, Venus Williams’ battle for prize equity in women’s tennis received little coverage. But a new documentary, set to premiere this week on ESPN, is sure to cement the Compton-born tennis star’s place in athletics history. “Venus VS” is the first of nine documentaries honoring women athletes that will air on ESPN over the next months, part of the network’s Nine for IX series that is directed by female filmmakers.

LeanIn.Org sat down with Ava DuVernay, the film’s director, to talk tennis, Title IX, and women and leadership.

Did you have a personal connection to Venus Williams? How did this film come about?
I’m a filmmaker with a specific focus on films centered on black women. When ESPN approached me about making something with them and asked me if I had any ideas, Venus immediately jumped to mind. I’m from Compton, and she’s from Compton. She’s always been a person I’ve watched and admired from afar.

What was she like to profile?
She was lovely, she was very open, she was very hands-off, which is something that any filmmaker in a documentary wants. The documentary is really a portrait of a champion as a totality, starting from Venus being an outsider in the game who was marginalized for where she lived, for [how] she played, for whether she grunted, the beads that she wore, her father, and not really being accepted.

Venus has spoken about how Billie Jean King has been an inspiration to her. How do you think attitudes toward women in sports have changed since King’s day?
Society has come further, and equality is more talked about. It’s much different than the 1960s, when Billie Jean was tackling it and women had to have credit card applications co-signed by their husbands. But … just because laws and rules changed, it doesn’t mean hearts have changed.

Did you see that during production at all?
One of the most startling things I found was the resistance by male athletes to participate. There’s only one male athlete, John McEnroe, who spoke on camera. We made over 50 interview requests to various men currently playing, high-profile former players in addition to the ATP (Association of Tennis Professionals) which is the male tour, all of which were refused or ignored. It really speaks to the fact that there’s really no interest in supporting or standing by the way that the women think. There’s a lot closed doors, snickering, pointing that “this is not fair”—the same old arguments that have been dismantled and disproven. The same arguments people throw out as to why women shouldn’t be paid equally are laid bare in this documentary and examined for what they are.

Have women athletes achieved parity? Will they?
There are many instances of [inequity] across professional sports, whether it be sports that don’t have a female equivalent (like football), or sports where the female equivalent is not as equally supported (some people would argue that that’s the case with the WNBA), or [instances] where girls in the suburbs have soccer balls and fields, but girls in the hood don’t. It’s not equal professionally or at the student level, but certainly there has been progress.

What can people take away from Venus’s story?
This story about equality in the sports realm is one that reverberates through every corner of society that is dealing with equality issues. That’s one of the beautiful things about sports—it’s a microcosm. The battles these athletes face on the court, the field, mirror the kind of epic battles that people face in everyday life. So to imagine that a sport that’s being seen and consumed on the international stage in 2007, just five years ago, is still unequal—that’s an inequality that reverberates across different parts of society. And when that unfair kind of playing field is made right and made level, that also reverberates.

Do you think there’s a correlation between sports and leadership?
It’s been published that a high percentage of women CEOs play organized sports, which I think is a lovely idea. I also think there’s something to be said for the spectator of women’s sports. I went to an all girls school and I was a spectator of women’s sports, because women’s sports were all that we had at that particular school. And there was something galvanizing about watching women conquer their battles and fight these battles on the court and on the field.

You became the first African-American woman to win the Best Director Prize at Sundance. Why do you think it’s important to have women directors?
Why wouldn’t we have women directors? It’s important because we’re human beings with films to share, not for any particular social goals, other than the fact it’s right and that it should be. Why would we accept a society where we don’t have women telling our stories in the most powerful medium? There are amazing women making amazing films around the world, and I’m happy to consider them my sisters.

Letters From Dad: Father’s Day Advice from Famous Dads to Daughters

By Lean In • June 14, 2013

To celebrate Father’s Day, LEAN IN teamed up with TIME to ask pops to write open letters to their daughters. The responses were equal parts heartwarming (Aaron Sorkin: “Once I saw you sit down next to a kid who was eating lunch all alone—always be that person”) and hilarious (Tom Brokaw: “Sarah, we’ll always have that New Year’s eve where I encountered your boyfriend walking through our house, drinking my precious magnum of Dom Perignon straight from the bottle”).

On this Father’s Day, we encourage you to remember this: children do better with active dads. They have higher cognitive abilities, do better professionally and are healthier and better adjusted. We need to encourage more men to lean in at home. To sit at the table — the kitchen table.

Below, personal messages from Marco Rubio, Mario Lopez, Rahm Emanuel and many more.

Aaron Sorkin to Roxy: ‘Be Brave’

Bassem Youssef to Nadia: ‘Smash Your Fears to the Ground’

Bruce Jenner to Kendall and Kylie: ‘Fear Is Part of the Game’

Chuck Schumer to Jessica and Allison: ‘You Can Do Anything You Want’

Ethan Hawke to Maya, Clementine and Indiana: ‘My Mother Raised Me a Feminist’

Jerry Jones to Charlotte: ‘Your Confidence Sold the Deal’

Joe Klein to Sophie: ‘Trust Yourself’

Marco Rubio to Amanda and Daniella: ‘Reach for the Stars’

Mario Lopez to Gia: ‘Be Tough’

Michael Bloomberg to Emma and Georgina: ‘Competitiveness Runs in the Genes’

Michael Buckley to Kendall and Morgan: ‘I Want You to be Feminists’

Rahm Emanuel to Ilana and Leah: ‘Follow Your Hearts’

Richie Sambora to Ava: ‘I Wish You Love and Empowerment’

Rodrigo Garcia to Isabel and Ines: ‘There’s a Cocoon for Young Women’

Tom Brokaw to Jennifer, Andrea and Sarah: ‘I Learned More From You Than You From Me’


Joe Echevarria: ‘Make Your Own Choices, Live Your Own Life’

Ric Elias: ‘Remember to Question the Status Quo’

Jay Hayden: ‘Always Know Your Worth’

Frank Tataseo: ‘You’rethe Artist and Author of Your Future’

Jim Breyer: ‘You Will Make Enormous Impact’

Jason Sperber: ‘You Are Powerful. Know This In Your Heart.’

Sequoia High School

Sheryl Sandberg to Sequoia High School: What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

By Sheryl Sandberg • June 12, 2013

Sheryl Sandberg asked Sequoia graduates: What would you do if you weren’t afraid? Watch video of her speech.

On June 7, Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg delivered a commencement speech to 386 graduates of Sequoia High School, a mixed income school in Redwood City, Calif., and the oldest high school in San Mateo County. She challenged these students — 97 percent of whom will go on to college – to ask themselves: What would you do if you weren’t afraid? The following is the text of that commencement speech:

Congratulations to Sequoia’s graduating Class of 2013!

I am so happy to join you today and celebrate your achievement.  I hope that each of you is feeling truly proud to have reached this milestone. I can tell you, as a mother myself, it goes double for your family.  Seriously, their hearts are bursting right now.

So let your family hug you for as long as they want after this ceremony.  Trust me, they will look back at photos and think, “That was one of the happiest days of my life.”  And you will look back on the same photos and think, “God, my hair looked stupid.”

As I thought about what I wanted to say to you today, I reflected on the many graduation speeches I have heard.  The best speeches had two qualities:  they were relevant… and they were brief.  I will try to be both.  As a side note, of course I encourage you to use Facebook as much as possible, but please refrain from posting any “Sheryl Sandberg is boring” comments – at least until I am done.

It is an honor for me to be at this incredible school today.  Sequoia high school is a shining example of what can work in US education.  I see in your school a model of what is possible when we believe that all students can learn and we include all voices in our discussions.

A few weeks ago, I asked your amazing Principal Bonnie about the students in this class. She told me all about the fortitude, compassion and achievements of the students graduating today. Many of you started here as quiet, shy freshman, and are graduating as strong, confident seniors heading to college. Many of you have overcome real challenges to get here today – balancing school, family responsibilities and work to help your families make ends meet; worrying daily about your immigration status – caused by laws I believe so deeply need to change.  And you have done all of this while not just  doing the hard work you needed to do to get to this day, but while also contributing to your community – from starting clubs for STEM outreach in elementary schools, raising money for the American Cancer Society, and volunteering to teach kids in East Palo Alto.  It was extremely moving to see so many of you stand up as the first in your families to graduate from high school – and then to see so many of you stand again to say that you are headed to college.

Given the spirit and drive you have, I decided what I wanted to tell you today is simple – to believe in yourselves.  Don’t let anyone put limits on you.  Think about what you have already done to make it to this great day – and know that you can do anything you set out to do.  Know that you can and will graduate from college, just as you are graduating from high school today.  Know that you can and will have any job you want.  Know that if you want to, you can have a family and provide for that family.  Know that you can and will contribute in your own way to making the world a better place.

Earlier this year, I published a book called Lean In which argues that we need true equality in the world for women.  It turns out – get ready for this shocker – that men – largely white men – still run the world. I believe that the world would be a better place if it were more equal – if we gave all of our children the education they deserve, if we had leaders of different genders and backgrounds who questioned the status quo, if we had people with different perspectives at the tables where decisions are made from boardrooms to town halls.

In Lean In, I talk about the importance of self-confidence – how believing you can do something is the first step to doing it. Now for some, self-confidence comes more naturally. When my brother and I were both in high school, one day we both had dates – yes, I know, I’m so old that back then we scheduled actual dates.  And, as it turned out, our dates canceled on both of us at the last minute.  I spent the rest of the weekend moping around the house worrying about all the things that were wrong with me that made the guy blow me off.  My brother decided the girl had “missed out on a great thing” and went off to play basketball with his friends.

I joke with my brother to this day that I want to spend a few minutes as him – it must feel oh so good to be that confident.  But in reality, even he has moments where he doubts himself.  We all do.

Freshman year of college was a huge shock for me.  I went to high school in Miami in the 1980s where I distinguished myself by being one of the least cool students – often called a “nerd” by my classmates.  This was not a compliment.  I headed to college and first semester, I took a course on Greek mythology called Heroes.  This course was the easiest way to fulfill the literature requirement – and it was nicknamed Heroes for Zeroes.  The professor began the first lecture by asking which students had already read these books. Almost every single hand went up.  Not mine.  I whispered to my friend sitting next to me, “What books?”  The professor then asked, “And who has read these books in the original?” “What original?” I asked my friend. “Greek,” she replied.  I asked her, “People actually speak Greek?” It seemed pretty clear that I was one of the zeroes.

This is where believing in yourself is so important.  On that day, I felt so intimidated – I wondered if I had been accepted to college by accident, if I could keep up with my fellow classmates for even that one class.  I had to believe that I was just as smart and capable as they were – and then I had to study harder than they had to in order to catch up.

Every task before us will not be easy.  We don’t always know for sure that we can do something – especially if we have never done it before.  Believing in yourself doesn’t mean strolling into every situation confident that you have all the necessary knowledge and skills.  It means that you believe you can acquire that knowledge and those skills.  It means believing you can rise to meet the challenge.  And remember, any challenge that you can meet effortlessly is not really a challenge.

This also holds true in the workforce.  On my first day of my first job out of college, my boss asked me to calculate some numbers. I had no idea how to do it so I asked him.  He said, “Just put it into a spreadsheet–use Lotus 1-2-3.”  Yes, again I am old – Lotus 1-2-3 is an early spreadsheet program that went away so long ago that none of you have ever heard of it. I told him that I didn’t know how to do that. “Wow,” he exclaimed. “I can’t believe you got this job without knowing that.”  I went home in tears, convinced that I was going to get fired.

The next day, when I got into work, my boss sat me down. My heart was pounding.  But instead of firing me, he taught me how to use the program.  And he taught me something far more important as well.  He taught me to ask for help when I needed it.

None of us gets through everything alone.  And none of us can know all of the answers.  Part of what enables me to try things I am not sure I can do is that I know that I can always reach out and ask for help.  It isn’t a weakness to admit what you don’t know or what you can’t do.  It’s a strength.  We all need help – and feeling comfortable asking for it is a huge part of being successful.

I see too many people holding themselves back because they feel intimidated.  I see too many people sitting on the side of the room, when they should be sitting at the table.  I see too many lowering their hands when they should raising them up higher.  Too many lowering their voices when they should be speaking up.  And too many struggling alone, when they should be asking for help.

We can’t always believe in ourselves as much as we should.  I don’t always feel as self-confident as my brother – and many of the tables I needed to sit at in my life were filled with people who looked nothing like me, usually because they were all men.  Over the years, I learned that even when I feel like I don’t belong at that table – and yes, this still happens to me – I sit there anyway.  And when I see things differently than everyone else around me – and I am not sure I am right or that anyone wants to hear it even if I am — I take a deep breath and speak up anyway.

Your life’s course will not be determined by doing the things that you are certain you can do.  Those are the easy things.  It will be determined by whether you try the things that are hard.  The classes that seem impossible on the first day, but you study hard enough to pass.  The jobs you want, realize you are not qualified for, and then work like crazy to get the necessary skills.  The moments when you feel alone, ask for help, and create a bond with someone because working together helps them as well as you. The times when you see things nobody else sees, and fear speaking out but you speak out anyway… and convince everyone else. Those are the moments where you can have real impact.

Don’t let yourself off the hook by deciding that something is out of your reach.  You’ll never know what you’re capable of unless you try. If you believe in yourself and are willing to ask for help, you can do anything – absolutely anything.

This how your generation can become the Lean In Generation.  The generation that knows no boundaries, fears no fears, and changes the world.

At Facebook, we have posters hung on walls all around our campus.  They say things in big, bold red letters – slogans that we think are important. One says “Fortune favors the bold”.  Another says “Done is better than perfect”.  My favorite says “what would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

As you graduate today, I wish for you 3 things:

  1. That you keep in touch via Facebook.  This is critical to your future success.
  2. That you know about yourself what we all know about you – that you can do more than you think is possible.
  3. That tomorrow after you recover from your grad party, you consider this question:  “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”  Think of your answer.  Write it down.  And if you want to share it, join us at  Or take a picture of yourself with your answer and post it to Instagram — hashtag #notafraid. If you do this, you will inspire others as you have inspired me.  But whether you chose to share your answer with or just keep it to yourself, commit yourself to dreaming big and then making that dream come true.

If you do this, you will be the Lean In Generation – the generation that creates a more equal – and better – world.  A world where all voices are heard.  A world where everyone has a seat at the table.

So today, on this day of celebration, celebrate by asking yourself, “What would I do if I weren’t afraid?”  And then lean in and go do it.

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